We all know that saying “those who live in glass houses shouldn’t throw stones” well soome stones were thrown and I’m not even going to bother helping to clean up this mess. It’s rare that I get so angry I yell, I usually just cry and sob hysterically (which is just such a great defense mechanism *said sarcastically*) and it’s even rarer for me to yell “I should just kill myself” and even rarer than that is for me to get so angry that I have a violent outburst (I never end up breaking anything…if anything I am the one who gets injured). Now for the rarest beast of them all, all three of those things happening within the same day. Let us now venture on to the events of Thursday, April 24.
The day started off with me having a follow up with my gynecologist to discuss my lupron injections. Besides me being hot all the time, I haven’t had much endometriosis pain and the best part NO PERIODS!!! There is one potential problem, when I saw my oncologist the previous week, my liver enzymes were elevated and my oncologist was not super concerned but wants repeat labs in 6 weeks. [they asked if I had taken any tylenol or had alcohol recently and I said not within the past month or two, forgetting that I had alcohol at the beginning of April. My mom later corrected me and was kind of upset that I didn’t remember that but I was stressed with finals and packing my stuff that it slipped my memory and still should affect my labs that long after.] I let my Gyn know about those results she also wasn’t super concerned and agreed with the repeat labs in 6 weeks because if they are more elevated it is most likely that my liver is struggling with the injection. She asked if I had taken any tylenol or had any alcohol recently and I hadn’t within the last 2-3 weeks of my labs. We discussed some other things but overall everything is going pretty well for treating my endometriosis. My mom and I went home and then she took my dad to work. When she got back that was when things went downhill. I was in the kitchen trying to decide if I wanted to eat or not and my mom says “just so you know there’s something your dad asked me to do.” And then she pauses and so of course I ask “what?” and I have to ask it multiple times. To which she finally responds “your dad told me to pour out all of the open alcohol (there were only two bottles that really didn’t have much in them) because your liver enzymes were elevated and I didn’t tell him.” To which I yelled “What the hell! So he thinks I’m an alcoholic!” she tried to say something to which I just said “what the actual fuck” and punched a wall screamed and went upstairs, slammed my bedroom door, and cried for about three minutes. I then went back downstairs and told her “neither of you get to know what my next lab results are, I am not going to tell you.” To which she got angry and then I asked “did you even try to defend me” and she said “no, I didn’t get the chance because your dad thinks your I’m cheating and your in kahoots with me.” I then yelled “well then why the hell are you still married to him?” She says “because he’s my husband” and I yell “that is just bullshit.” [WARNING this is where really nasty bitchy me comes out and I am not proud of it but this has literally been bottled up for years.] I then scream “what hell kind of example are you setting for me? If I marry someone abusive or that treats me like shit IT’S YOUR FUCKING FAULT! because that’s the example you are setting.” She stormed off to the kitchen and I yell “I should just kill myself! and I hate my life!” and I stormed back up to my room and slammed the door.
Now you may be wondering if the story stops there. No, no it does not.
While I am angry and sitting on my bed sobbing in rage, my mom screams from the kitchen, and of course me being me, I already knew that she had either done something stupid or was about to. So I angrily go down to the kitchen where I see my mom with a death grip on a chef knife and a butter knife. I immediately grabbed the knife’s, which she fought me on, I got the knives out of her hands and threw them into the dishwasher and told her to go do something else. She refused and told me to leave her alone which of course I didn’t let her. She finished making the tuna salad with me standing in the kitchen watching her. I apologized for how I said what I said to her but I meant what I said to her. I also said “If you’re going to kill yourself, kill me first because I don’t want to be stuck with him.” I then stood in the kitchen until she left to go to work.
I have not spoken to my dad since Easter nor do I really intend to for the foreseeable future. I sick of all of his bullshit, insecurity, the world revolving around him. I haven’t spoken to my mom since thursday and I really don’t want to talk to her either.
The stones have been thrown and this time I am not going to help pick up the pieces. I am so over this bullshit family dynamic and I am so stupid for letting myself get hurt over an over in the process. Going to University is what is supposed to stress me out and be a challenge but instead I get stuck with not only University stress, I get my shitty homelife to go on top of it all. There is really no way for me to escape my parents until I am 100% not reliant on them for anything, which is going to take a while to happen, as my dad likes to sabotage my successes and my mom is so naive pay attention and take action.
I’m tired of fighting and I’m tired of being hurt by the people who are supposed to be my parents. It’s terrible that I dream of the day that I can cut myself off from them. They both think that I am going to be the child that takes care of them when they get old, but I’m not. They have two other children that can do that I’m out. The times when I needed them most they ignored me or blamed me. When I asked them to listen to me, they pushed me to the side. When I told them the truth, they were quick to believe the lies of other people. My story doesn’t matter to them. I am only sick to them when it is convenient. They only care about putting on a good face and lying to everyone about things going well. I am sick of that facade and I have ZERO shits to give anymore. It’s not worth my energy to pretend all is well.
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